I want to tell you about a simple yet powerful tool that can make a big difference in how we communicate with others. It’s called the “WAIT” principle, which stands for “What Am I Thinking and Why Am I Talking?”

You know those moments when you blurt something out without really thinking about it? Yeah, we’ve all been there. But here’s the thing: by using the WAIT principle, we can learn to communicate more effectively and avoid those cringe-worthy foot-in-mouth situations.

So, what does WAIT actually mean?

1. What Am I Thinking? Before saying anything, take a moment to pause and ask yourself, “What am I thinking?” Are your thoughts clear? Are they kind and respectful? Or are they fueled by anger, frustration, or impatience? Being aware of your thoughts is the first step to change our mindset.

2. Why Am I Talking? Next, ask yourself, “Why am I talking?” Are you trying to express your opinion? Share information? Or are you just talking for the sake of filling the silence? Understanding your motive behind speaking can help you communicate with purpose.

Now, let’s break down why the WAIT principle is so important:

1. Prevents Hurtful Words: By pausing to think before speaking, you can avoid saying something hurtful or offensive in the heat of the moment. Remember, words have power, and once they’re out there, you can’t take them back. I see it all the time, people gather and complain and gossip about someone else, but when you leave, think about it. You might be the next target.

2. Promotes Clarity: Taking a moment to gather your thoughts to check if your message is clear and what you actually want to say, instead of just blurting something out. This happens a lot when you are reacting to a situation that usually leaves you feeling hurt, instead of responding with what you need or even ask ,”so did you mean…” and let them have an opportunity to explain. This can help prevent misunderstandings, heck sometimes keeping friends and family together!

3. Encourages Active Listening: When you’re focused on what you’re going to say next, it’s easy to tune out what the other person is saying. By practicing the WAIT principle, you can train yourself to be a better listener and truly engage in meaningful conversations. You might actually learn something from someone else buy simply listening to them talk.

Remember, using the WAIT principle isn’t about staying silent or censoring yourself. It’s about being mindful of your words and communicating in a way that is thoughtful, respectful, and effective and most importantly kind. So the next time you find yourself in a conversation, remember to WAIT: What Am I Thinking and Why Am I Talking?

By mastering this simple principle, It will change the way you speak to yourself and others, while catching those thoughts that don’t serve you. What do you want to think and say instead?

Love and Light,
Christa Rose

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